I finally met him, he seemed nice enough and I even asked him if that was his real name. You know the answer: Of course that was his real name. I saw him a few times and finally I invited him over. It was that night that I came across some information that would soon lead me to find out who he really was. I began my investigation into this guy. To no one's surprise, I found out he was using a fictitious name, was not a pilot, was married and had a child. Through my investigation, I found out where he worked and I went and confronted him.
I really liked him, felt we had a connection of sorts. He had a funny sense of humor and we had some great conversations. Truth of the matter was that I fell for his low self esteem story. Quite honestly, it really hurt that once again, I had fallen for someone who was not who they said they were. In reality, it can happen to anyone who is out there and interested in making a real connection. So here's the moral of the story. I no longer will go out with a guy that I can't verify. Once I know that he is real,??? I will investigate him so that I know who I am going out with. No exceptions!!!
So what about you?? How many times are you willing to find out after the fact, that you are involved with someone who has lied to you from the beginning? Have you had enough? Are you interested in taking steps to protect yourself from frauds? Since I have had my eyes opened, I have become very passionate about helping others who want to enjoy dating. I strongly suggest that you check out your potential soul mate. It is the only way to date smart in the 21st century.
There are a lot of scam artists out there and many people who do not tell the truth. Please take the time and be willing to invest the money to protect yourself and your heart. You owe it to yourself to know. You deserve happiness based on the TRUTH!!!
I am Beverlee Sokol founder of Dating Dirt. Allow me to introduce myself to you and tell you why I started this particular division of Confidential Services. First of all, it is important to know that I have been in the investigative field for 21 years. With all of my knowledge and experience, I was convinced that nobody could take advantage of me. WRONG!!! Here's my story...
I was just getting over the break up of a 22 year marriage. So here I am single again and naive. To say I wasn't prepared for this new world of dating and relationships would be a massive understatement. Dating is very different from the last time I was single and out there. It was suggested by many of my friends to get on a dating internet site. So, that is just what I did. I decided to join a few different sites just to see what was out there.
One of the first guys I met was gorgeous and feeding me all of the lines. He lived out of town and was traveling overseas to gain a contract that he had been working on for the last year. What did I know??? I believed him. We spoke on the phone and on line for a few weeks before he left for Scotland. It was a few weeks upon arriving in Scotland that he began asking me for money. I consider myself to be a rather intelligent lady, but what I learned was that in matters of the heart, I didn't apply much common sense. The heart is way different than logic.
Sure, my antenna went up, but I was in a very vulnerable state and wasn't able to see how easily he took advantage of me. He wrote me love poems, said all of the right things to build trust in our relationship. Yep, you guessed it, I ended up giving him some money. Lest you think I am a total idiot. I did ask him for proof of how he spent my money. He was always able to provide a convincing paper trail. Even with the alarms blaring, I recognize that I wanted to believe him. He knew how to manipulate me and play upon my kindness and time after time I fell for it.
Needless to say, he was a Nigerian scammer. How do I know this? Over time, I guess you could say, I have learned to trust my inner guides. Thank goodness I only lost the money. It could have been a lot worse!!!